The title might sound racist but please let me explain before make your own conclusion okay! Few days ago I found my ex-schoolmate during my secondary year at SMK Lohan, Ranau (SEMELOR) via Facebook. Despite of all the negative criticism, I still think that Facebook did a good jobs in connecting people so that families, friends and relatives can keep in touch from all over the world. I lost contact with this friend of mine for almost 13teen years and he found me on Facebook through of of his friend of friend. We are not close friend but he was good friend of mine since he did know lots of stuff about me especially stuff that concerned with the opposite sex..
He PM me on Facebook, bombarded me with endless question which I answered honestly.. Then he asked me this particular question " Hubby ko nampak macam orang melayu. Melayu ka dia? " that make me remembered my confession to him years ago. Gosh, he still remembered though that confession was made 15 years ago. When I answered him " Yes, he is Malay " then he teases me, saying "I thought You Hate Malay Guy?! How come you end up with ones?" leaving me speechless for a while. ( serve you right for making such racist remark back then, I mentally slapped myself. ) But I corrected him by saying "I don't hate them, I just dislike them and still have those dislike feeling over certain type of Malay guy"
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Yes, I admits that at 15teen years old I dislike Malay guy for one particular reason, they can have 4 wives (Polygamy)! Such a naive thought but still the main reason I dislike them nowadays although I can listed down several other reason why I dislike them present day. My 1st condition before I marry my hubby was NO POLYGAMY! I don't like the idea of sharing him and nothing can change my decision. I believes in fact that NO woman in this world like the idea of sharing their husband. Only great woman with great kindness such as Prophet Muhammad S.A.W 1st wife can do such sacrifices. (I am no great woman and can never be like Prophet Muhammad's wife)
However back then woman might don't mind sharing their husband because most men during the years of Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. have more than 1 wife for honorable reason, to protect the woman. Nowadays, man especially Malays guy take this for granted since they were having more than 1 wife not because of protecting the woman but for the sole reason to satisfy their lust and greed. From what I learned via talk show and religious books, polygamy is supposed for those who financially stable and capable to treat his wives fairly but from my own observation most Malay guys still took another wife though they barely capable to support his 1st wife and in most cases the husband tended to forget his responsibility to his 1st wife once they got a new wife! Such a cliche! I dare to bet that most Malay guys who practiced polygamy did it without their 1st wife permission..
Another traits in some Malay guys that I found repulsed me is their capability to act pious though in reality they were just as obscene as the western guys. In my earlier entry last year about Tagged I mentioned about the behavior of the guy friend I got from this social web but one thing I did not mention in that entry is all of those sly guys were Malay who approached me with nice conversation in the beginning but reveal their true nature/intention once they got comfortable with them. They are really gross when comes to sex stuff and even worst than all of those westerner. At least those westerner are blunt and direct to the point with what they want and expect from us unlike the Malay guys who using they pious side to get closer to us before they "ambush" us with their true self. I have one Australian guy friend which I got to know from Tagged that have a particular intention but once I explained to him that I am married and have no intention to betray my hubby trust, we end up being a very good online friend. I deleted all of the Malay guys from my friend list in tagged because they keep on harassing me with their demand. See, some Malay guys just don't understand the word "NO"!
I know it's sound weird to dislike Malay guys when your own hubby is Malay but that's me and even my hubby know and understand my dislike toward Malay guy. As long as he is not one of them, he said! Just to clarify, I don't dislike all of Malay guys since there are numbers of them do have a very good qualities indeed but my dislikes goes to those Malay guys who have above particular traits especially when the one concerned with POLYGAMY! I am woman and as a woman I know woman worst fear..
If you happened to be a Malay guys and read this entry please don't feel offend okay! Just think this as a opinion from a woman about you guy. (I guess this entry won't harm you if you are good Malay guy right? hehehehe) I know this entry is kind of blunt and maybe a bit meanie too though I loves peace and I don't like to cause uproar. I just expressing my opinion in words of mine, so pardon me if you guy feel offended.. You are welcomed to comment but please don't shoot me with harsh comment okay and remember PEACE NO WAR! (^_^) V
