Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Monday, January 16, 2012

The Price I Pay

It's Monday again and here I am trying to crack my blur mind of new story/idea to share with people out there (*winking). But honestly, I miss to write something in this blog of mine.. Not much to share about my ordinary life but I do have something that I need opinion from you people. It's something related to the title of this post, so bear with me & keep reading ok!

1st of all, million thanks for those who leave comment/opinion in my previous post about dilemma of married woman. I really appreciate your generosity for sharing your thought and good news is I already figure out how to convince my mom. I also figure out how to fulfill my dream and at the same time avoid prejudice from certain people. Well, instead of traveling alone I think it more safe and fun if I travel with either my husband or my friends/ families. Wise thinking & good choice right? Self appraising huh.. (*rolling on floor laughing) My mom have no objection once I told her that! I guess she is just worry about my safety when traveling alone (*smiling). Issue solved, next problem please! Kada kotogod kio ambalut.. (^_^) V

Recently I noticed that my kids are a bit scared to tell/to ask  me anything and frankly I only realized last weekend that they were not "a bit" scared but they are SCARED of me! I asked my husband why the kids acted like that and guess what he said??

Image of kids in fear - credited to
"Seriously?? You don't know why the kids scared of you? Did you noticed that since the beginning of this year you always snap at them? I mean you are always tensed and even a small matter make you angry. I didn't say anything because I know you are stressing out with our financial problem."

Well, I did remembered snapping at the kids few times but I never thought that will make them scared of me and I don't like the kids to feel like that towards me. I tried to control myself from getting angry or snapping to them but I am just human being that sometimes it just happened. Some people said that this problem occurred because I am so young and not yet ready to face the challenge of motherhood. Obviously I am 29 years old mother of 4 kids but to me age but there are lots of young parent out there who excelled in parenthood, better than some of parents who are older than them. So, I guess we shouldn't judge parent based on their age.

In my case (from my own point of view) this problem all caused by my  weakness in tackling my stress! I have no one to blame but myself for causing my kids being afraid of me. No matter how tensed or stressed I am, I shouldn't snap on them because now I am paying the price of my own mistake(*sighing). Still don't know how to win my kids heart and trust.. Can you imagine how I feel when I see my kids expression of fear every time they ask something to me? I feel horrible! No wonder they were cowering whenever I raised my voice..(-_-) So parent out there, what do you think of this matter Obviously I need to re-evaluate myself to avoid myself from snapping at them but any opinion/suggestion/idea on how to tackle this kind problem really welcomed here!

Okay, gotta go now and search for some info on how to win my kids heart again. If any of you have any advise please do tell me.. (*puppy face)

Happy Monday everyone!

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Sunday, December 4, 2011

It's Super Silent !!!!

My heroes who keep our home alive with NOISE!
I woke up at 9am, yes 9am with a weird feeling today. I am wondering why can't I hear any television noise or any voices at the living hall.. It's kinda creepy because my house really are quiet! Than I remember that 2 of my hero was staying with their grandma at Semenyih (*slapping my forehead)

I always scold them for making lots of noise especially during weekend morning because I want to sleep a bit longer on that day but now I kinda miss their noise already =(.. The truth is I miss them already (*sniffing). To make it worst, my daughter is asking for her older brother right after she woke up! Even the my youngest son ask for his big brothers (*sobbing). Sorry for being such an emo today. It just that I rarely being apart from my kids...

My kids are close with each other though sometimes they fight like cat and dog. It's really funny to watch them picking with each other (*smiling). Last night my daughter refuse to go back home and she cried till she exhausted because she didn't want her brother to stay at their grandma house. Hubby have to trick her saying that her brother will ride with their grandma later to our home at Puchong. Guess what she said when she woke up this morning??? "LIAR" Yes, serve us right for tricking her (*sighing). I don't know whether I can stand the silence of my house for a week but hopefully I can because I promised to my heroes that they can stay there for a week, unless they miss us and want to come back earlier (*winking). 

OMG, this entry is so boring that I swear I can see you all yawning and said BORING (*Laughing) Okay, I hope all you had a enjoyable weekend and don't forget tomorrow is Monday, so Happy Sunday and Happy Monday in advance!

Monday, August 8, 2011

"Tu Lah, Beranak Lagi Ramai"

I am used to phrases such above. Lots of people  said that to me every time I said something like "Adui, pening betul la dengan korang ni" , "Kenapa suka gaduh2 ni?", "duduk diam jap boleh tak?" and etc.. You know words you might blurt out when you can't stand your kids mischief and manner any longer. I guess mommies always blurt this kind of word but we never really mean it, aren't we mommies?

I have to admit that the feeling of ashamed did crossed my mind once and even complained to my mother only to be scolded by her. She said, "You should be proud and grateful because you are healthy enough to give birth as many as you can. Do you know there are people out there working and praying hard just to have a baby of their own?" Yeah, she got a point there and I couldn't argue the truthfulness of her word. 

Then I thought of those who have 6 or 7 or 8 or even 14teen kids and that killed all of those nonsense feeling of ashamed or what so ever. So now whenever people say the phrases above to me, I just smile to them and said, "Ramai anak, Banyak berkat, Murah rezeki

Sometimes they might be good but often they might be naughty
Sometimes they make me mad but often enough they me laugh
Their laugh, their smile, their tear are essence of my life
Their existence give a new meaning to my life

I have POV, what say you? Ahahahaha.. A very short entry but what to do since my messy work desk really need my attention right now..
Happy 8th Fasting day, happy Monday & Have A Good Day!

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Daycare Center Registration And 'Fishing" At Midvalley

Yep, I registered my kids to daycare center this morning. We decided to choose the 2nd choice as I mention in my previous entry about hunting for new new daycare center because it's cheaper for sure and not crowded as the other daycare center around Puchong. The daycare center is call as "Taska Kasih Sayang" (hopefully their service will parallel with its name) and I will start to send my kiddos there next Monday. 

The Complete-filled Registration Form
Yeah, it's such a relief because we will no longer face the same problem such as too frequent taking emergency leave due to our nanny problem as before but at the same time I feel a bit anxious. Why? Because I am afraid that my kids especially the last one will miss their former nanny..Orang tua2 cakap, kids can fall sick if they miss someone terribly.. Nauzubillah, Subhanallah..I don't want to think negatively so I just pray that Allah will watch over my kids..Amin.

So right after the registration and briefing by the owner cum manager of the daycare center, hubby and I went to Midvalley to meet a customer and while hubby discussion with the customer, I wander around only to spot the 7th Parenthood Expo 2011, a very happening event being held nearby the Food court Junction. Hahaha..I did my 'fishing' there! (Sorry no pic taken at the venue of the event because I did not bring any camera - bateri handphone pun nyawa2 ikan..hihihi)

Actually, I already bought this month diapers stock for my youngest son but since the price is quite cheap ( RM20 per Bag) so I bought this 2 bags for future stock.. It's cheap but is it good? Yep, based on the sample/display they shown me, it's as good as my recent diaper brand (Huggies). Hubby just shake his head when he saw my 'fish'..=P 

Inilah hasil 'TANGKAPAN" saya di Midvalley...Pssttt, isn't the goodie bag color awesome? =P
Mommies, (Selangor/KL) if you want to buy some, you may go to Midvalley because the events is still on but only until tomorrow.. Hahaha, sempat lagi promote..

Uittt..feel like this entry is turning into daily report la pula..So, before I bore you to death better I ciao dulu..GOOD NIGHT AND HAPPY SATURDAY!

P/S: The re-usable goodies bag of the diaper also one of the reason why I bought the diaper. I fall in love with the bag at 1st sight..(^^)v

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Hunting For New Nanny/Daycare Center!

Hi everybody!!! How are you doing?? Hahahaha..I don't think I need to ask those question since I read all of your (my follower especially) update.. You know, update like trying the newest skirt fashion, goods being detained by custom, newest music interest..etc..etc.. Hehehe, I might rarely update my blog nowadays but I still have my eyes on you.. 

Why rarely posting an entry? because I have this one major problem that occupied my mind for the past few days. What is it? Well, we have to find other nanny to take care of the kids since the our nanny want to go back to her husband hometown middle of next month. She already told us about this earlier this month but we don't fuss over this matter. Not until we found out that our nanny is pregnant and she want us to pay her in full though she will only take care for my kids like 15teen days.. Buli ka macam tu?? 

So, hubby and I decided last week right after we found out about her pregnancy to look for another nanny or at least a daycare for our kids.. So since last Saturday between pleasure time and working time, hubby and I are searching and investigate the nearby daycare centers and potential individual. Gosh, believe me it's not a easy task!! 

Best kalu dapat daycare yg mcm ni (image by Mr Google)
So far, hubby and I were pondering between 2 daycare center and we have to choose one by Friday since August will approaching us next week. One of it already operating more than 1 year, have 3 more helper but the place is bit crowded with almost 20 kids excluding the babies. While the other one is  just opened like 2 month ago, 2 workers/helpers but not crowded like  the 1st one. Both are located nearby to our flat area and our kids school. About the fee, the 1st daycare offer us RM730 while the other one offer us RM660. 

As I told you, I am bit choosy when its concern with my kids. So, I will think of this 2 choice from every angle before I give my answer. Hubby? He said he will choose the 1st one because they are more experienced but I don't agree since experienced alone not enough to handle kids especially when they are in large group..

Nah, I started to rants already! So what do you think? Which  one should I choose? Jangan malu2 bagi cadangan kio..(*Wink2)

Okay, penat suda ni otak berfikir, so got to stop now and give my mind a good rest before rebooting again tomorrow morning. 


Monday, June 27, 2011

My Mom Only Have One eye

Good day everyone! Just want to clear up the title above..Actually the title is referring to the inspirational story ( as below) that I found in which I want to point out my own view. Yeah, it's the same website again..Okay, 1st thing 1st; please read the full the full story below but for those who have a soft heart like mine, please prepare your tissue box because you will definitely shed your tear since the story is really touching..
My mom only had one eye. I hated her… She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.
There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, ‘EEEE, your mom only has one eye!’
I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, ‘ If you’re only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?’
My mom did not respond… I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.
I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.
Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.
When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, ‘How dare you come to my house and scare my children!’ GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!’
And to this, my mother quietly answered, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,’ and she disappeared out of sight.
One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.
My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.
‘My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.
You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.
With all my love to you,
Your mother.’
Image by Mr. Google
We have to admit that story as above did happened in reality. Often enough a daughter or a son tended to forget or even worst to deny their parent existence due to their physical deficiency and their poverty. You know, it's like our very own folklore "Si Tanggang" who is ashamed of his mother appearance and poverty that turned into rock in the end of the story.

The story remind me of my own embarrassment of my mother when I was in primary school. Well, I have described my mother in my Special Entry For Mother's Day (paragraph 3) and that was the reason of my embarrassment. I was in standard 4 that time when I learned the embarrassment feeling of my mother because my friends always boasted up about their mother good being and merit. I will only listened to them and never said a thing about my mother because I knew the fact very well that my mother is just an ordinary kampung women.

As always, I will involved in prizes and awards presentation day because I was one of the presentee and normally I wouldn't mind my mother to come but that year I was nagging my father to come instead of my mother because I don't want my friend to meet my kampungan mother and realized the reason why I never bother to interfere in their conversation. 

"Why don't you want her to attend it? She was the one who attended it before this," my father asked.
"I don't want my friend to laugh on me because I have a very kampung mother!" I blurted it to my father. He was shocked and speechless. At that time I don't care about anyone feeling but mind.. Betul-betul buduh kan..Then my father realized what is going on in my heart, so he talked to me and those talk will always stick in my heart because it was the reason why I will always proud of my mother.

"Nung, when you were just a baby, you always fell sick and always admitted to hospital because you were born pre-matured. Everyone including me thought that sooner or later you will leave us. But, your mother never gave up hope on you. She stayed by your side, accompany you in the hospital and praying that you will live and you did make it. You were so tiny, weak and having this generic eyes problem (in Malay they called it "juling air",  a condition where your eye move when you stare at something for certain time and it will turn to normal once you blink your eye) like your brother but she was still proud of giving birth all of you. You see, other people might have a very beautiful and perfect children but in your mother eyes,  in our eye all of you is perfect, a special gift from God. She sacrifice her life and her time for you and still you ashamed of her? What do you feel if your mother feel ashamed of you just because of those generic problem?" My father asked me after a very long-meaningful speech.
I was gobsmacked and I cried very hard after that speech of my father. I went to my mother and asked for forgiveness for ever feel ashamed of her. Since then those feeling no longer crossed my mind anymore because I am proud of my mother no matter what. I only thought of her sacrifice and love for us that beyond word.

That's why I love to read and hear inspirational story because it help me to realize my mistake and learn from it. The story above remind me of my foolishness in the past and make me realize all over again the unconditional love that my parent have bestowed upon me and I hope that this story will make you realize of your parent unconditional love too.. Hmmm, siapa cakap time hari ibu atau hari bapa saja kita boleh cakap pasal pengorbanan dorang kan..

P/S: You might already know this story but as always me too want to point out my view..hahaha, penyibuk betul kan.. (^_^)V

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Kiddo Tantrum & Mommy worries

Woahh.. It's almost 3 days since my last update huh? The truth is I have so many thing I want to type down but I have no free time to do so since I am  busy with my overload task at office and  tagging along my hubby delivering order around Puchong and KL for the past 3 day.

Firstly regarding the Oreo Daddy Dunk Event that I said gonna attend. Guess what? We didn't manage to reach OU on time and missed the event! I was so damn sad and upset with my hubby because it was his fault that I missed the event! It was Father's Day on that day, so it's really mean of me if I explode right? So I just calm myself down and think positively. Moreover, it's not like my hubby did it on purpose. Well, some thing cannot always happened according to our plan. But, yes there is BUT because the story continuous and you have to wait my entry tonight..(*wink2)

My main content for today is about my youngest son who is showing his new side of tantrum that make me so damn worried and irritated at the same time. Since he turned to 2 year old, he always shouting and throwing things to his sibling and even to my hubby and me. Last Monday, he threw my other hand-phone and caused a bump on my daughter head. Before that he threw my hubby hand-phone ( luckily it survived) and before that he threw his food that make my hubby smacked his hand. He even tried to threw his bicycle toward his sister once! 

I asked his nanny how was he doing in her care and she told me that he was a good kid and have no problem taking care of him. So I am totally clueless on why he acted like that at home! My hubby said it's normal changes for a toddler of 2 years. Maybe it's true because I have read an article that said at 2 years a toddler became aware of what other people/bigger people can do and they became upset and throwing tantrum when they unable to accomplish those tasks.

I have asked my mother  and in law advice and both of them told me to stay calm and don't start panic because they said my youngest son is in a stage of learning a lot of new things that sometime made him upset when he couldn't do it right. They said all I need to do is to observe him so that he will not do something harmful to himself. I even bring him to see a pediatrician and they too said the same things.Well, both advice sound as same as the article I have read. 

My daughter also have bad temper but it only show when she was almost 4 years old but my youngest son already show them though he is only 2 years old. Right now I am trying the best to calm down and using a soothing words whenever he is angry and upset (as my mom and in law advised) to avoid any other consequence. However, I miss my smiling prince..(*sigh)

Happy moment with my prince of smiling
 So, mummies out there, have you ever face the same situation as mine? How do you cope with it? Please comment and share with me ok.. Ya, sa memang muka tembok kalau bab2 minta nasihat, hihihi.. You know, as Malay proverb proclaimed, ' MALU BERTANYA SESAT JALAN' so I have to ask if i don't know and right now I am truly lost.

That's all for now. Wait for my entry about what exactly happened on last Sunday. Adios! 

P/S: -  I took my 45min morning break to update my entry and stuffing FOOD in my hungry tummy (^_^)V

Friday, June 10, 2011

A Box Of Kisses

Image by Mr. Google
Ehem... I have stare to the monitor for quite some times but couldn't find the right words to start my rant today since I am kind of free. I didn't realize that I have zoned out until my hand-phone rings. Oppps, hubby called to inform me that he will arrive in 20 minutes to fetch me out for lunch. Mean I only have 20 minutes to type down my rants! 

Okay, since today is Friday and last working day for this week, I thought (earlier) I am  not going to ruin anybody weekend mood by writing something teary-dreary. However, I don't have time to elaborate any idea that lingered in my mind so I decided just to share below motivational story, again from
Some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.
Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.” He was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found the box was empty.
He yelled at her, “Don’t you know that when you give someone a present, there’s supposed to be something inside it?”
The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said,”Oh, Daddy, it is not empty. I blew kisses into the box. All for you, Daddy.”
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness.
It is told that the man kept that gold box by his bed for years and whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us as humans have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, friends, family and God. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold. Often enough, in our effort to achieve all of those temporary fame and wealth, we hurt our loves one feeling especially our kid, parent and even our sibling and only realize what they mean to us when it's too late.. I know the feeling of guilt and regret over neglecting/hurting the one who close to me.

So, treat your love one nicely so that you won't live with the same guilt and regret I feel and believe me that your life will much more meaningful. Spend time with your family, kid, parent or even your sibling because in the moment of difficulties they were the 1st person you will turn to for encouragement..

GEEEZZZZ.. Time's up! Need to fix my make-up because hubby will be here in any minutes.. Have a nice Friday and blasting weekend!

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

ParenThots - What do you do when your child has nightmares?

ParenThots - What do you do when your child has nightmares?

My eldest son always have a nightmares. Even worst, he is sleepwalking!

Lots of funny and scary stuff he did during sleepwalking but does it worried me?
Of course I am worried all the times because there been incident where peoples died during sleepwalking!

It's easy to tackle nightmares but to cure sleepwalking will takes forever because there are no scientific explanation for this kind of phenomenon yet so far.

When my kids have a nightmare, all I can do is comforting them and accompany them until they go back to sleep again. I don't know how to prevent nightmares because it's impossible to control our dreams ( even some people said we can ) and though I prevent them from watching horror film, there is still a chance other matter might trigger the nightmares.

As for sleepwalking, there is no particular way I can tackle it but I did secured/locked dangerous place such as kitchen, bathroom and even the exit door to prevent any chance of unwanted accident when my eldest son sleepwalking..
I have read about sleepwalking in one of my favorite author " Sidney Sheldon" book titled " I heard That Song Before" where it was mentioned that sleepwalking happened due to the stress / pressure condition of individual yet I wonder what is stressing my eldest son since he is just 9 years old.

last time my eldest son sleepwalking( last week ), he broke our front door while trying to open it! I was totally scared when I heard the sound of something broke that night because I thought someone tried to break in only to find out that it was my son doing! I think I need to consult with expert about this matter to get further explanation.

Image Source: Google

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Morning therapy with my mom!

This morning I call  my mother to pour out my heart out about my 2nd son.. Last night I punished him because he lost his class timetable and exercise books.. Moreover, my eldest son complained to me that he always wandered alone back at school !
Sometimes my kids behavior especially my 2nd son always cause me headache and sometimes will turn me into "step-mom".. My mother said I need to use different way to approach each of my kids since they are different in characteristic and behavior and I guess she is right after all.. My mother said parenting done with softness is better than that with harshness because harshness only cause bitterness in kids character.. The bond between children and parent is much more strong if we use a softer approach to tackle their misbehavior.

Calling my mother really worth my phone bills because I  know I can  rely on her to advise me.. She is my top idol beside my father!I hope I can figure out my kids character and find the way to advise them in more effective way than punishing them to regret later..


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