TO THE BETTER ME :)

It's a hectic day yet I decided to write up my 1st entry for year 2015 just to ensure that my blog will be update at least twice a month . Yep, I set that goal because I want the passion of sharing my random thought over life and things around me flare up again. Kam langadon tomod dot mimbobok ih inan tih..bwahahaha! After saying goodbye to year 2014 few weeks back and still  got caught of new year mood, I am welcoming New Year 2015 with arms wide spread, ready to embrace all the successes(*finger crossed)  and failures(*touched wood), hoping that it will better than the past year.

In the past year, I've learned that we can find happiness in everything we do, so this year I want to spend more times with my family especially my kids because I realized that their smile and laugh is my source of strength and happiness. I also want to keep practicing yoga (though my pose progress ain't getting better) and keep running (though my pace as slow as a snail) because this 2 activities make me feel happy :) In between I will try to spend time with friends because they are important part in my life too. The hang out time will be less frequent than before since I will spend more quality time with my kiddos, but I will  try to hang out once a while to catch up with everything okay ging..Ngehehehe!

Last year I jotted down 3 goal I want to achieve that I managed to tick off 2 of them and for this year I add another 3 goal beside the 1 thing I haven't yet manage to achieve. I also planted a reminder to myself that I want to be a better version of me than 'me' from the past years since I knew I could never be perfect :)

That's all for now. Have a wonderful 365 days (minus 12 days) ahead everyone!

It's never too late to wish Happy New Year!

1st pic of year 2015 :)

Fate Is Part Of Life

Do you believe in fate?

I think most people believe in fate and yeah, I do believe in fate but do not surprise because there were people out there who doesn't believe in it. I knew one person that who doesn't believe in fate. He believes everything happened is based people choice that the outcome is people choices. He said that we can fight for our fate, that we can determine our fate.. Hurmm, I respect him but I just don't agreed with him in this point..

He said that my life became a mess because of my choice and I couldn't blame him for saying that (*sighed).. I still believe that it was fated that my life became a mess so that I will grew up and get strong. Yeah, for a decade I was struggling and became an eyesores for certain peoples but beyond that I am stronger and wiser than 'me' from 13 years ago.

Death also part of fate, isn't it? We can't choose where and when we going to die because it's already written in our fate and only the Almighty God knew about it. But that's my belief and I couldn't force him to accept something he don't believe.

That's a bit of my random thoughts for now and I also want to wish all Muslim all over the world a very happy and blessed Fasting Month! Be humble in everything we do. Peace! (^_^)V

Happy Wednesday and Happy Fasting!

Note: I am not philosopher and everything I wrote is just about what I felt and thought of ..

Just because Fate doesn't deal you the right cards, it doesn't mean you should give up. It just means you have to play the cards you get to their maximum potential - Les Brown

Back Up Your Mobile Data/Media To your PC/Lappy Regularly!

Monday blues everyone? Honestly I am having one...

That's a reminder for those who tend to forget transferring or backing up their media (Pics / Audio /Video) from their mobile to PC/lappy/USB etc because you could never know when your mobile jadi sot-sot like mine yesterday..Huarghhh!!! All of sudden, I cannot open/view all of my pics/audios/videos stored in my Note and it keep saying that my USB storage is blank or there was an error in my USB storage. I cannot import or view anything even after I connect it to my PC. I cannot even took new pictures! My last resort is to reformat it but that means I am going to lost all of my valuable pics!! (*Sniff2)

At this moment, I am still mourning for my lost but that a lesson for me.. I don't really mind about the audio (mp3) because I still can download it but all of those captured moments had gone and it really make me sad. Well, lesson learned...so from now on, I will transfer/back up all of pics snapped with my Note right away to prevent this incident again.. I also downloaded dropbox app just in case I forgot to backup my pics again in future sebab saya go'oling betul ba..Almaklum, banyak wire suda putus..hehe! Any other apps suggestion for better and fast backing up?? Feel free to suggest ah sebab saya ni tidak berapa kalau pasal apps2 ni..hehe

I feel better after blurting out my sappy story here..Hahaha! Until next post, remember to back up your data regularly kio! Happy Monday and Happy Working ! Peace! 

I am Happy For You...

My Big Bro, Bitot & My son

Last night while my hubby was using my PC, my niece Opok buzzed me to chat via FB..  I was ready to have an early night but then have to cancelled it because I  want to know what she want to chat with me about..

Guess what she told me about??!! My big brother will engage with his girlfriend after he sign his divorce paper on this coming 28th March! I am shocked and speechless because I am so damn happy for him! It's about time for him to start a new life, a  new beginning after his unfaithful wife ( soon to be ex-wife ) dumped him for another man.My brother is a good man, a loyal one and my soon to be ex-sis-in-law doesn't deserve him at all.. He might have a temper but he never raised a hand to anyone even me his stubborn sister!

Actually I envied my brother courage to start a new family after failed with his 1st marriage.. If it happen to me ( touch wood ), I will definitely have a emotional wreck-down that will require forever to trust in marriage again.

What worried me the most is the age gap between them & they just get to know each other a month ago..He's 38th years old and his girlfriend only 21 years old.. I know what you thinking, BUT, love is blind right? I don't want to think negatively because to me the important thing is my brother happiness. If he is happy then I am happy for him too..I prays for him to find his happiness after all the ordeal he been put through with his 1st marriage.


Everyone deserve happiness in life.. Ordeal and turbulence may come all along but in the end happiness will come to those who search for it with pure intention..

For those who give up after failed in life or in anything, try to find in your heart the will to get up and try once again because every cloud has a silver lining.. Who know you might achieve more and you will never know unless you try..

Life : Through My Window ( Poem )

Wanna share this nice piece of poem  by C Cattaway . The meaning is deep & significant with my Blog Title.

Through my window, I can see
A world that isn't pleasing me,
For on the street, I see a box,
And inside, feet which wear no socks.
I needn't know, for I can guess
Just what is there atop those legs,
A little boy without a home.
A poor, small child, helpless and alone.
Through the window there, I saw
A man who turned to alcohol,
And still, each day, he fills his cup
'Coz that's all that keeps his spirits up.
People think it's his own fault,
"He would change, if a job he saught",
But they don't know why he's that way.
He's skilled enough, but still turned away.
Through the window, I can see
A world I viewed so differently.
I'm lucky enough to live inside,
And it's easy enough for me to hide.
What have they done to be that way?
Did they run out of luck, one day?
With a different start, would they be the same?
Or, would all my worry be in vain?
I've taken for granted the sea and the sky,
For I thought my window didn't lie.
But now, I see that I was wrong.
Outside my window, life goes on.

© C. Cattaway 1992

Submission date : 2006-04-13
Last edit : 2006-08-02

ENJOY READING OKAY!

Culinary Failure!

Whenever my hubby and me talk about culinary, he will teases me about my 1st fried rice that I prepared years ago.

Frankly, I don't how to cook when I married him 10 years ago! Okay, let me tell you why he teases me about it.
That day I choose to prepare fried rice because I thought it's easy than other menu. I used my common knowledge didn't refer to any recipe book.( Malu mo tanya plus masa tu I don't have/keep recipe book with me)

I still remember the ingredients of my fried rice :- a can of sardine, garlic, chillies, salt and a big bowl of cooked rice. I fried the meshed sardine, garlic and chillies together then I putted the cooked rice, added salt and done. At that time seronok la sebab manage to prepare something for my hubby. I don't even thought to taste it 1st.

So right after my hubby returned home, I asked him to taste my fried rice and do you know what he said??
" Awak masak ape ni?? Rasa macam NASI KUCING la.."
I tasted it and he was right because it tasted like cats' food!!! I felt so ashamed and I vowed that I will never cook anything without consult anybody..

I sulked for few days because of this nasi kucing incident but now when I think back it's kind of funny. After that I bought recipe books for cooking simple and daily dishes and never experimenting with my common knowledge in culinary..

One lesson I learned that day was to taste my cooking 1st before serving it to other people. My hubby said it's basic knowledge in culinary.

I am lucky because since that day my hubby is the doing the cooking task. I just help him to prepare the ingredients. I can cook but I am no chef! I don't have the talent in culinary though I loves food very much..

I think lots of people out there have their own experience with cooking and this is mine.. 

Note: I always admire people who expert in cooking because they can turn simple food into mouth watering dishes. They said everyone can cook but I definitely a failure in culinary..*sigh*

Know all the facts before you judge!

This story is simple and does happened in real life:~

One old man was sitting with his 25 years old son in the train. Train is about to leave the station. All passengers are settling down their seat. As train started young man was filled with lot of joy and curiosity. He was sitting on the window side. He went out one hand and feeling the passing air. He shouted, "Papa see all trees are going behind". Old man smile and admired son feelings. Beside the young man one couple was sitting and listing all the conversion between father and son. They were little awkward the attitude of 25 years old man behaving like a small child.

Suddenly young man again shouted, "Papa see the pond and animals. Clouds are moving with train". Couple was watching the young man in embarrassingly. Now its start raining and some of water drops touches the young man's hand. He filled with joy and he closed the eyes. He shouted again," Papa it's raining, water is touching me, see papa". Couple couldn't help themselves and ask to old man. Why don't you visit the Doctor and get treated your son.
Old man said," Yes, We were coming from hospital only. Today only my son got the eyes first time in life".

Moral: "Don't draw conclusions until you know all the facts".

Peoples tend to make conclusion without knowing the whole story, leading other people to the wrong side of the whole truth and I realize that did the same mistake several times that end with bad consequences.

For example, last year I found out that my hubby used the money that supposed to be spend on our kitchen stuff without consenting me and instantly, I accused him using  the money to buy trivial stuff instead of asking him and we end up having a "cold war" for a day, only to find out that he used it to settle his old debt with his friend. You see, if only I ask him rather than accusing him then we won't get through that "cold war" after all..

The main key is don't feel ashamed to ask! Nobody will get mad with you if you ask question ( as long as the question is appropriate and suitable to the situation ). By asking, you will get the answer to ponder with before you make conclusion/judgment!

Things To Always Remember

Whenever I feel down, depressed or even madly sad, I will surfed for inspirational stories, poems and even quotes that can help me to lift up my strength and spirit. It is kind of my habit to help me ease down my worrisome heart..

Your presence is a present to the world.
You are unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take the days just one at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You will make it through whatever comes along.
Within you are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.

Do not put limits on yourself.
So many dreams are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and you prize.

Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem the heavier it gets.
Do not take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

Remember that a little love goes a long way.
Remember that a lot … goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment.
Life’s treasure are people together.

Realize that it is never too late.
Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.
Have hearth and hope and happiness.
Take the time to wish upon a start.

AND DO NOT EVER FORGET ….
FOR EVEN A DAY
HOW VERY SPECIAL YOU ARE !

I picked the poem above because it remind me to appreciate the existence of me in this world, to live life to the fullest, to dare myself of hoping and dreaming and to appreciate every single  thing that surrounded me.. In short words, it remind me to live, learn and love!

Great Marriage story

I just want to share this amazing story that read from this link :~ AcademicTips Blog
Here is the story that I picked :~

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments… 

This story really touched my heart and I hope it will touch many more..

Thing Happened For Reason - Be Strong My Brother..

Midnight is time that I spare for myself to lay down staring at the ceiling and think back about my life. Last night all of sudden I was thinking about my older brother. He is going through a very harsh stage of life right now yet he never show his true feeling to any of us including my mother who loves him so dearly.

When I think about him I feel that I am luckier than him though my earning is far from enough to support my big family because he is so lonely. He have a good career with excellent salary but nobody to share all of those thing he have. He a daughter but his relationship with his daughter is altered because of the mother doing.

Recently during Christmas day, I was able to see him again after few year lack of communications due to my cowardliness and embarrassment. I am so happy to see him but I am taken aback with the longing look in his eyes when he played with my kids. At that moment I knew that he is in misery. I know about his problem through my mother but my brother tried to act that he is okay when I asked him about his life, his daughter and said he will going to see her soon.

Though I am not as close to him as my other brother, Peter but I loves him and adores him. Thinking of his condition wretched my heart. My father once said to me that everything happened for reason but I can't think a single reason on why should my brother life become complicated like this. I know he is stubborn and he even have a  tantrum but other than that he is a kind  guy and he deserve happiness in his life.


I prays that he will find happiness in his life. I am grateful because I still have my kids though things always find foul with me.. No matter what happen, I believe that God is watching over us all.. We only have to put our faith in God..

To my brother, please don't give up your hope and expectation in life. Things happened for reason. Our father will always watching over us from above. Remember, you still have us by your side and we will always support you.

Fifteen Things God Won’t Ask..

God won’t ask what kind of car you drove, but will ask how many people you drove who didn’t have transportation. God won’t ask the square footage of your house, but will ask how many people you welcomed into your home.
God won’t ask about the fancy clothes you had in your closet, but will ask how many of those clothes helped the needy.
God won’t ask about your social status, but will ask what kind of class you displayed.
God won’t ask how many material possessions you had, but will ask if they dictated your life.
God won’t ask what your highest salary was, but will ask if you compromised your character to obtain that salary.
God won’t ask how much overtime you worked, but will ask if you worked overtime for your family and loved ones.
God won’t ask how many promotions you received, but will ask how you promoted others.
God won’t ask what your job title was, but will ask if you reformed your job to the best of your ability.
God won’t ask what you did to help yourself, but will ask what you did to help others.
God won’t ask how many friends you had, but will ask how many people to whom you were a true friend.
God won’t ask what you did to protect your rights, but will ask what you did to protect the rights of others.
God won’t ask in what neighborhood you lived, but will ask how you treated your neighbors.
God won’t ask about the color of your skin, but will ask about the content of your character.
God won’t ask how many times your deeds matched your words, but will ask how many times they didn’t. 


My POV :~
# We might not perfect and to do all the qualities above seem impossible to accomplish since we're not a saint but at least we can try..

Million Thanks to:---> inspirational stories for sharing awesome story/quotes !! 

LOVE - WEALTH - SUCCESS

The story :~
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beard in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said, " I don't think I know you but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."
" Is the man of house home ?", they asked.
" No, he is out ", she replied.
" Then we cannot come in, " they replied.

In the evening when her husband home, she told him what happened.
" Go and tell them I am home and I invite them in !"
The woman went out and invited the men in.
" we do not come to the house together, " they replied.
" why is that ?" she asked.
One of the old men explained. " His name is wealth, " he said pointing to one of his friend, and said pointing to another one, " He is success and I am love." Then he added, " Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her  husband was overjoyed. " How nice!!" he said.
" Since that is the case, let us invite the wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!!!!"
His wife disagreed. " My dear, why don't we invite success??"
Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion, " would it not better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!!!"

" Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife.
" Go out and invite Love to be our guest".
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, " which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest".
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the woman asked Wealth and Success, " I only invited Love. Why are you coming in?"
The old men replied together, " If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other 2 of us would've stayed out. But since you invited love, wherever he goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there also Wealth and Success!!!"

Moral of the story:

LOVE LEAD US TO BETTER THINGS SUCH AS WEALTH, SUCCESS,  HAPPINESS....

YES, THERE WOULD BE TIME WHEN LOVE HURT BUT BEYOND IT LOVE STILL CURE...

Story Of My Father, My Idol..

MY BELOVED FATHER

Dunggi Marudin, that is my beloved father name. He has 14teen kids; 7 kids frm his 1st wife and 7 kids from his 2nd wife ( my mother ). I don't know much about his work background though he did told me about it so many but it was my fault for being so unobservant.

My father loves all of his kids though he rarely show it but as a person who always spent a lot of time with him before I leave my village to pursue my study, I know that he loves all of his kids unconditionally. Some of us did complained that he was unfair in showing his love yet the truth is he never differ his love to any of us. 

My father was not a wealthy man. He did not own a huge bungalow or fancy car yet he did inherited some good properties from his parent. He manage to support us till we are able to support ourselves. He is very good in fixing thing especially electronic stuff and also vehicles. Some of us did inherited his talent in fixing thing.

My father is the kindest man I have ever know but he is not a pious man. Though he was christian follower yet never go to church or attending anything concerning with religion. I did wonder why and even asked him once when I was still a little kid but all he said; you will understand when you grew up. I understand very much now the reason. He never gossiped about other people though some people always talked bad about him. If people done injustice to him, he never complain though i knew he was sad and disappointed with certain people and I am one of those people who make him sad and disappointed.

My father was the one who asked my siblings to seek and search for me when I was missing, lost my way of life. My mother said he tried to play tough during those period of times yet he was crying every night just thinking of me and even fell sick for worrying too much about me and for that i regret every single thing I have done for causing his misery.

My father accepted me and still love me like before although my other family already considered me as the black sheep in the family after betraying my family trust and tarnished their reputation. My father forgave me and even supported me through my choice of life path. He become my adviser, motivated me to stand up and prove to all people that I still can raised from my fall. 

My father is my idol and will always be. I still remember our last conversation on the night before he was gone. He asked me to never give up no matter what happened because things happened for reason. Those 15min conversation through phone was the last conversation I have with him. (I couldn't even hug my father for the last time). My father was gone forever but to me he is always here close to my heart and i do believed he is up there watching over  me.

My other siblings might have their own story about him but this is my story about him.. But no matter what their story, I believed that all of my siblings love him dearly. He was the center of our life. Without him, we are not who we are now.

I only have 2 pics of my father but I don't need any pic to recall all of our memory together because it's right here in my mind and my heart.

4 years have passed

I’ll never forget the day

Someone rang to tell me

That you’d gone away

The hurt is the same

Still here in my heart
Like an open wound

Keep bleeding when those date approached

There are days
I don’t utter a sound
Some days the pain is stronger
It makes me sick and weak
I can’t stand the pain and regret

I just sit and weep

I was your princess

Daddy's little girl

I took my own path
But still you never cast me away

Yet I am still part of your world

You were like a rock

Strong, faithful and true

What worth has my life

Now I don’t have you

I was not the best

I even the worst

Guilty of neglect

But you know daddy dearest

I had so much respect for you

I always love you

My dad, my idol

Now my pain is
To miss you from afar

MAY YOUR SOUL REST IN PEACE

8TH RAMADHAN IN MY LIFE..

I learn to fast for the 1st time on year 2002. Its really hard for me since i love to eat very much and training myself to stop thinking about delicious food is really hilarious experience. But Alhamdulillah, I managed to go through the whole month except for few exceptional days for woman.

Though i must confess that I am not a good Muslim because i am lack of knowledge about Islam in many aspect and still in process of learning but I know quite a lot about Ramadhan, thanks to my my mom-in-law and sis-in-law and also my husband..

This year is the 8th Ramadhan in my life and I am really excited about it..

Hopefully i will learn and redeem my self during this sacred month..

Internet Love Scam..., Don't Let Yourself Become A Victim

Internet love scam is not a new issue in Malaysia. For the past few years a lot of such cases involved internet love scam which is conducted by Nigerian syndicate was been reported and to our surprise it's still prolong till now despite of the warning from local authority and government.

The latest victim was a professor from Sarawak. In her report , she said her net love posed as a handsome British men who have a very successful career and looking for the right person to be his life partner or in other word a wife. She lodged a report after she didn't received her parcel from the "British men" after she banked in the payment into required from a female caller who claimed that she is a officer from custom department. Last night the Nigerian syndicate was busted by our local authority after they traced the owner of the account bank who turned to be a local female citizen in which the victim banked in the payment. If i am not mistaken, 8 Nigerian and 1 local female was arrested. That's a good job done by our police department and we should be thankful to them for bringing down another group of heartless criminal who played with heart and love.

Then i was remember that i did once encounter a guy from Tagged who posed as a British man from wales but working at Japan as a electronic engineer who called himself as Jeff Joe. Ironically, despite of me telling him that i m just looking for friendship, he keep courting me online using a very sweet talk, so i just follow his flow and let him think that i have fallen into him. Then after few weeks chatting via MSN, he ask for my address so i give him fake one. I am not stupid and i am well aware about internet love scam. I just want to know how far he gonna do.

Few days after giving him my fake address and  my real contact number, he told me that he already shipped a package for me using courier services named as United Cago Services. He even give me the link to those courier service website to check on the parcel he sent to me and my password to check the parcel route.. Here is the link---> http://www.unitedcagoservices.page.tl/home.htm

He sound really convincing and touching when he told me what he sent to me and why he sent it, so no wonder other woman especially those who longed for a gentleman and not alert to the latest scam and fraud happened online will fall for him. Then I received a call from a foreign guy who claimed he is united cago services delivery agent in Malaysia to inform me that the parcel already arrived at KLIA and will undergo security check. You know what the guy sound like a African or Nigerian!!! I just okay to him because i am curious what will happened next.

Then i received an email from the delivery agent not from the courier services itself asking me to make payment of RM1505 for Gov tax (RM655) and custom duty (RM850) into an CIMB account number. I really wished i saved that email but since it was in my junk email then it was discarded already. In a mean while Jeff Joe keep in touch with me via MSN asking me about the parcel progress. So i told him that the parcel was arrived at Malaysia already but i couldn't afford to pay the amount asked by the delivery agent. I asked him to pay the amount for me and guess what, he give me thousand excuses including the unacceptable one like the courier service accept cash only.

So i told this British man that I am well know about shipping things because my company also deals with import export and all payment is made on delivery not before delivery and  i never heard of any courier services such as united cago services and the link he gave to me is not a website. So i told him i want to ask my friend from police department to check on the problem. Guess what, he panicked and ask me not to do anything. He said he will come to Malaysia by himself to settle the parcel problem..

Since that day i never heard any from him anymore.. It seem like he disappeared just like that.. But  I am happy and glad because I am one of those woman who manage to survive from being a victim to internet love scam. Thanks to my alertness to global and local issues. But I am bit sad because i did not no anything to prevent them from finding other victims. I mean I should tell the authority about it.

Woman especially widowed, single and loner should be more careful with online dating. Don't let yourself become another victim of internet love scam. I understand that online dating is something fun but don't let yourself carried away by it. Like I always said, use your brain not your gut and lust.

- Article from The star ( part of )

"A lonely person who receives attention via the Internet or face-to-face will be extremely vulnerable, and this can develop into a more serious relationship,” said Jaques from Integrated Psychological Network Sdn Bhd.

People fall for nice words. Lonely people will be more vulnerable to nice but empty promises.”
 
- Article from The Strait Times, Singapore

Advice from police
Members of public are advised to be aware of such scams and to adopt the following measures:
Take extra caution in befriending strangers on the internet.
1-Do not make any bank transfer payment for bail or fine. The authorities do not require any such transfer of  money.
2-Do not entertain emails or any online messages that are unfamiliar to you.
3-A culprit might spend months building rapport online before asking for money. Even if you think you know this person well, consider that you really do not know anyone from your communications over the Internet - you just know the way he/she chooses to present himself online.