When 'Chickenpox" Attacking

I guess everyone are busy talking/writing about the so-called 'end of world' which apparently not going to happen today (21.12.2012) but not me because I never give heed about this matter since I know that no human could ever know when is the end of world except God. It's not that I am arrogant about this matter but it's beyond my power/knowledge, so there is no use for me to predict/speculate about it but be thankful that I am still alive each morning I wake up. Well, enough with my two cents about this and back to the point of this update (*lol).

Image credited to allaboutinspiration.com

So it's true then.. When 'chickenpox' attacking your kid, your routine gonna change 180 degree! Yep..that happened to me recently when the my youngest boy (Eyas) and his sister (Shasa) got chickenpox and hopefully my other kids immune of it already (*finger crossed)..

I brought  Eyas and Shasa to my office for almost 3 weeks and it did effected my work because taking care 2 sick kids while doing your job is that easy but I prefer that way instead of worrying all the time about them. I am so grateful because I have a very considerate employer who doesn't mind me bringing the kids at my office. May god bless you and prosper your business, boss!

Luckily it's school holiday or else my routine gonna change 360 degree! lol.. Actually, Eyas and Shasa already recover from the chickenpox now and my routine back to normal now (*thank God).

Christmas is around the corner and as it approaching, I couldn't help myself from missing my family and the Christmas celebration back in my hometown. It's been a while I never back at my hometown during Christmas (*sigh).. I am thinking of putting up a Christmas tree in my house here in Puchong but have to cancelled it because "some people" might get the wrong impression.. I miss to be in Sabah where people are more open-minded and not too skeptical about everything...

Darn.. I am out of topic already! LOL.. Anyway, that's all for now and until next entry people.. Happy Friday everyone!

Wordless Wednesday #27

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Source Of Strength

Whenever I feel like breaking down and want to raise the flag of surrender over life hardness, I will focus my mind over my kids smiling face to calm myself and keep on fighting. Yes, they are my amulet of strength, the source of my strength that their smiling face alone can reload 50% of my fighter spirit beside prayer to God and support from those who cares.. Balik-balik cerita pasal anak kan but they are my life and it's better writing about them than gossiping about other people affair kan.. (*winking)

My Source Of Strength (^_^)V

Why do I refer my kids as my amulet of strength? Isn't God suppose to be our source of strength? Well, of course God is our source of strength. I can't never denied this FACT but to me my kids also my source of strength. Why? Because whenever I feel like want to give up for examples my job due to its' pressure and demand, I will think of my  kids happy face and what will happen if I quit. They will lost the smile of happiness and I don't want that happened.. You see what I mean, they existence give me a new meaningful purpose in life and it give me such strength to ensure they will have a better life than mine. 

Another examples, When I feel like I can't stand the marriage life any longer (1st thing 1st, touch wood..nauzubillah), I will think of my kids happiness and that give me new strength to fight for my marriage because I want my kids to have a good family... Often enough I stumbles upon hardness that took away all my energy to fight that I am glad I have my precious kids to keep me re-charge and resume fighting.. But I don't have to elaborate more about it because any person called mum or dad understand this feeling..

Did I bored you up already?? With this boring topic, I guess I did.. Hahaha! Okay, better stop now or else you might blacklisted me for being a super boring blog-post.. Huhuhu, please NO..(",)v

Hasta la entrada sigiente, bye!

The Price I Pay

It's Monday again and here I am trying to crack my blur mind of new story/idea to share with people out there (*winking). But honestly, I miss to write something in this blog of mine.. Not much to share about my ordinary life but I do have something that I need opinion from you people. It's something related to the title of this post, so bear with me & keep reading ok!

1st of all, million thanks for those who leave comment/opinion in my previous post about dilemma of married woman. I really appreciate your generosity for sharing your thought and good news is I already figure out how to convince my mom. I also figure out how to fulfill my dream and at the same time avoid prejudice from certain people. Well, instead of traveling alone I think it more safe and fun if I travel with either my husband or my friends/ families. Wise thinking & good choice right? Self appraising huh.. (*rolling on floor laughing) My mom have no objection once I told her that! I guess she is just worry about my safety when traveling alone (*smiling). Issue solved, next problem please! Kada kotogod kio ambalut.. (^_^) V

Recently I noticed that my kids are a bit scared to tell/to ask  me anything and frankly I only realized last weekend that they were not "a bit" scared but they are SCARED of me! I asked my husband why the kids acted like that and guess what he said??

Image of kids in fear - credited to risingthefawn.com

"Seriously?? You don't know why the kids scared of you? Did you noticed that since the beginning of this year you always snap at them? I mean you are always tensed and even a small matter make you angry. I didn't say anything because I know you are stressing out with our financial problem."

Well, I did remembered snapping at the kids few times but I never thought that will make them scared of me and I don't like the kids to feel like that towards me. I tried to control myself from getting angry or snapping to them but I am just human being that sometimes it just happened. Some people said that this problem occurred because I am so young and not yet ready to face the challenge of motherhood. Obviously I am 29 years old mother of 4 kids but to me age but there are lots of young parent out there who excelled in parenthood, better than some of parents who are older than them. So, I guess we shouldn't judge parent based on their age.

In my case (from my own point of view) this problem all caused by my  weakness in tackling my stress! I have no one to blame but myself for causing my kids being afraid of me. No matter how tensed or stressed I am, I shouldn't snap on them because now I am paying the price of my own mistake(*sighing). Still don't know how to win my kids heart and trust.. Can you imagine how I feel when I see my kids expression of fear every time they ask something to me? I feel horrible! No wonder they were cowering whenever I raised my voice..(-_-) So parent out there, what do you think of this matter Obviously I need to re-evaluate myself to avoid myself from snapping at them but any opinion/suggestion/idea on how to tackle this kind problem really welcomed here!

Okay, gotta go now and search for some info on how to win my kids heart again. If any of you have any advise please do tell me.. (*puppy face)

Happy Monday everyone!

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It's Super Silent !!!!

My heroes who keep our home alive with NOISE!

I woke up at 9am, yes 9am with a weird feeling today. I am wondering why can't I hear any television noise or any voices at the living hall.. It's kinda creepy because my house really are quiet! Than I remember that 2 of my hero was staying with their grandma at Semenyih (*slapping my forehead)

I always scold them for making lots of noise especially during weekend morning because I want to sleep a bit longer on that day but now I kinda miss their noise already =(.. The truth is I miss them already (*sniffing). To make it worst, my daughter is asking for her older brother right after she woke up! Even the my youngest son ask for his big brothers (*sobbing). Sorry for being such an emo today. It just that I rarely being apart from my kids...

My kids are close with each other though sometimes they fight like cat and dog. It's really funny to watch them picking with each other (*smiling). Last night my daughter refuse to go back home and she cried till she exhausted because she didn't want her brother to stay at their grandma house. Hubby have to trick her saying that her brother will ride with their grandma later to our home at Puchong. Guess what she said when she woke up this morning??? "LIAR" Yes, serve us right for tricking her (*sighing). I don't know whether I can stand the silence of my house for a week but hopefully I can because I promised to my heroes that they can stay there for a week, unless they miss us and want to come back earlier (*winking). 

OMG, this entry is so boring that I swear I can see you all yawning and said BORING (*Laughing) Okay, I hope all you had a enjoyable weekend and don't forget tomorrow is Monday, so Happy Sunday and Happy Monday in advance!

Wordless Wednesday #10

Wordless Wednesday #3

Hunting For New Nanny/Daycare Center!

Hi everybody!!! How are you doing?? Hahahaha..I don't think I need to ask those question since I read all of your (my follower especially) update.. You know, update like trying the newest skirt fashion, goods being detained by custom, newest music interest..etc..etc.. Hehehe, I might rarely update my blog nowadays but I still have my eyes on you.. 

Why rarely posting an entry? because I have this one major problem that occupied my mind for the past few days. What is it? Well, we have to find other nanny to take care of the kids since the our nanny want to go back to her husband hometown middle of next month. She already told us about this earlier this month but we don't fuss over this matter. Not until we found out that our nanny is pregnant and she want us to pay her in full though she will only take care for my kids like 15teen days.. Buli ka macam tu?? 

So, hubby and I decided last week right after we found out about her pregnancy to look for another nanny or at least a daycare for our kids.. So since last Saturday between pleasure time and working time, hubby and I are searching and investigate the nearby daycare centers and potential individual. Gosh, believe me it's not a easy task!! 

Best kalu dapat daycare yg mcm ni (image by Mr Google)

So far, hubby and I were pondering between 2 daycare center and we have to choose one by Friday since August will approaching us next week. One of it already operating more than 1 year, have 3 more helper but the place is bit crowded with almost 20 kids excluding the babies. While the other one is  just opened like 2 month ago, 2 workers/helpers but not crowded like  the 1st one. Both are located nearby to our flat area and our kids school. About the fee, the 1st daycare offer us RM730 while the other one offer us RM660. 

As I told you, I am bit choosy when its concern with my kids. So, I will think of this 2 choice from every angle before I give my answer. Hubby? He said he will choose the 1st one because they are more experienced but I don't agree since experienced alone not enough to handle kids especially when they are in large group..

Nah, I started to rants already! So what do you think? Which  one should I choose? Jangan malu2 bagi cadangan kio..(*Wink2)

Okay, penat suda ni otak berfikir, so got to stop now and give my mind a good rest before rebooting again tomorrow morning. 

GOOD NIGHT & SLEEP TIGHT !

Movie Time With Kiddos: Harry Potter And The Deathly Hollow Part II

Today I went to watch Harry Potter & The Deathly Hollow Part II with my kids (Elan, Daniel & Shasa) at GSC IOI Mall, Puchong. To tell the truth I was pretty tired since I have to settle quite a lot of pending task and I am not fully recover from my flu but I still go because I already promised to my eldest son. Well, tomorrow is his birthday and instead of having a party like his younger brothers, he asked me to give him movie treat. However, I still planned to have family party to celebrate his birthday and his good achievement in his 1st term examination.

the ticket..

Kiddos with their popcorn..

Daughter (Shasa) and me.. Haiya, did you notice the tired eyes..=)

Everybody must already knew that this is the final parts of Harry Potter. I am one from million fans of this novel/movie and I have watched all the movie from the 1st movie; Harry Potter and the sorcerer stone to the  very last one Harry Potter And The Deathly Hollow Part II, which I watched this evening with my kiddos. My eldest son also a fan of this movie and like me, he too has been watching the movie (DVD) over and over again.

This final part of harry Potter concluded everything from the 1st movie to the last one. In this final part, every single question that still clouded my mind (such as why does Snape helped Potter right before he killed Dumledore and etc..) answered and I am quite happy with the ending of this story. I have to admit that I have not yet read all the novel but after this not only I am going to read it, I am going to buy and collect it as well!

"Is that really the end of it mama?" my eldest son asked me before we leave our seat at the cinema. He was  kind of dazed because he couldn't believe that that was the end of Harry Potter. I nodded and almost laugh to see his mixture expression of relief because Harry Potter beat Lord Voldermort and sad because no more sequel to this favorite movie of him.

Different people, different view/opinion but to me, I think this movie does have it own attraction and I really love the strength of  friendship between Potter, Hermione & Ron. From the very beginning they stick together and always help each other in goods and bad times too. It is one of quality that rarely exist among friends nowadays and If you have one than you really are lucky.

Gosh! Pardon me but I am truly are sleepy and  I my eyes hardly open right now..(*yawning)

Good night and sweet dream everybody!

P/S: CAN'T WAIT FOR THE TWILIGHT : BREAKING DAWN MOVIE..

Wordless Wednesday #1

The Exhausted Daughter Of Mine

Last Friday my office turned into a day care for my kiddo (daughter & youngest son) because their nanny asked for leave to attend her kids record taking at their school. My husband also have to attend it, leaving me with the kids.

I have no choice but bringing them along to my office since I have to wait for DHL Currier service to deliver company supply from Japan. My boss don't mind at all since he and the other salesman rarely at office leaving me all by  myself most of time. I am lucky to have such a considerate boss =D.. I bet none of you have a kind boss like mine..hihihi..show-off betul kan..

Actually that was not the 1st time I took them to my office because of the same problem; their nanny asked for 'cuti' yet we never deducted her salary though. My hubby intend to find a daycare for our kid to avoid such thing and we really hope we manage to find one nearby our flat area before end of this month. As a parent, current issues such as babies/toddlers/kids died at daycare center really are terrifying me to send my kids to daycare center but as a working parent, we have no choice but doing so. I only hope those people whom I put my trust to care my kids will do their best to do the task of taking care my kids.

Okay, back to the main story about the exhausted daughter of mine. Well, my daughter refuse to take her evening nap at my office because she I forgot to bring along her 'bantal busuk' which she used to 'gentel' before drift to sleep. So, she played all the time around my office. I knew that she was so tired because she asked too many question and talked lots of stuff. She tended to do that whenever she is tired to avoid herself from falling to sleep.

I persuaded her several time to sleep beside her little brother while waiting for my hubby to fetch us but she was so stubborn. I fell sorry for her because it was my fault for forgetting her most precious pillow. Around 5.00pm my hubby arrived and we went off to Giant to do our monthly shopping..hehehe,baru gaji ba jadi shopping dulu la..

"Ma, kita nak pergi Giant ke?" she asked excitedly. Gezzz, ni budak betul2 peminat Giant.. Her sleepy eyes gone, replaced with enthusiasm. Hahahaha, but that was only for 15 minutes. After that, see what happened to her :-

We wonder why so quite.. Gosh she is sleeping soundly in the trolley

tskk.tskk..poor Shasha..

look at her gaped mouth..sedap betul dia tidur!

Hubby and I tried to so our shopping as fast as possible because we know how tired our daughter was. She don't even stirred a bit when we placed her into the car and in our house. She was so damn tired! 

Okay, that's all for today.. My master-chef a.k.a my hubby is calling me to train my culinary skill so got to put full stop here. Have a blasting Sunday everyone! (^_^) V

P/S: Though I practice every weekend yet my culinary skill still as poor as before.. My master-chef said, seem like I have to be his assistant for longer then he expected..hihihihi

Kiddo Tantrum & Mommy worries

Woahh.. It's almost 3 days since my last update huh? The truth is I have so many thing I want to type down but I have no free time to do so since I am  busy with my overload task at office and  tagging along my hubby delivering order around Puchong and KL for the past 3 day.

Firstly regarding the Oreo Daddy Dunk Event that I said gonna attend. Guess what? We didn't manage to reach OU on time and missed the event! I was so damn sad and upset with my hubby because it was his fault that I missed the event! It was Father's Day on that day, so it's really mean of me if I explode right? So I just calm myself down and think positively. Moreover, it's not like my hubby did it on purpose. Well, some thing cannot always happened according to our plan. But, yes there is BUT because the story continuous and you have to wait my entry tonight..(*wink2)

My main content for today is about my youngest son who is showing his new side of tantrum that make me so damn worried and irritated at the same time. Since he turned to 2 year old, he always shouting and throwing things to his sibling and even to my hubby and me. Last Monday, he threw my other hand-phone and caused a bump on my daughter head. Before that he threw my hubby hand-phone ( luckily it survived) and before that he threw his food that make my hubby smacked his hand. He even tried to threw his bicycle toward his sister once! 

I asked his nanny how was he doing in her care and she told me that he was a good kid and have no problem taking care of him. So I am totally clueless on why he acted like that at home! My hubby said it's normal changes for a toddler of 2 years. Maybe it's true because I have read an article that said at 2 years a toddler became aware of what other people/bigger people can do and they became upset and throwing tantrum when they unable to accomplish those tasks.

I have asked my mother  and in law advice and both of them told me to stay calm and don't start panic because they said my youngest son is in a stage of learning a lot of new things that sometime made him upset when he couldn't do it right. They said all I need to do is to observe him so that he will not do something harmful to himself. I even bring him to see a pediatrician and they too said the same things.Well, both advice sound as same as the article I have read. 

My daughter also have bad temper but it only show when she was almost 4 years old but my youngest son already show them though he is only 2 years old. Right now I am trying the best to calm down and using a soothing words whenever he is angry and upset (as my mom and in law advised) to avoid any other consequence. However, I miss my smiling prince..(*sigh)

Happy moment with my prince of smiling

 So, mummies out there, have you ever face the same situation as mine? How do you cope with it? Please comment and share with me ok.. Ya, sa memang muka tembok kalau bab2 minta nasihat, hihihi.. You know, as Malay proverb proclaimed, ' MALU BERTANYA SESAT JALAN' so I have to ask if i don't know and right now I am truly lost.

That's all for now. Wait for my entry about what exactly happened on last Sunday. Adios! 

P/S: -  I took my 45min morning break to update my entry and stuffing FOOD in my hungry tummy (^_^)V

      

Never too late

For the past few days, I have been seeking advice from much experienced people such as my own beloved mother, mom-in law and also from expert in child development beside doing my own reading and searching via the books or internet about related topics of child development and misbehave. I am really grateful and feel blessed because I have a very  understanding and helpful mother whom I can discuss my deepest concern especially  about my kids problem.

After thinking for few days about my second son changes of behavior, at last I listed down few ways to understand and tackle down the main reason behind his drastic misbehave.

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1. I am going to talk more with him to show him that I cares about his doing. My mother said, it's the best way to bonding with our kids. 
2. Listen to them instead  of asking them to shut up. Expert said that children who can speak up and express themselves freely will developed into a very confident kind of person and one way of achieve  this is by  listening to them whenever they want to tell us something. 
3. Prevent any kind of serious beating / punishment in future. Compassion and understanding worked more effectively to children than physical beating / punishment.

Thinking back, I never give heed about talking and listening to my kids before this. Ashamedly, I have to admitted that sometimes I did snapped to them to shut up whenever they started to talk more than I like them to be especially when I am tired. After listening to my mom and expert advise I feel terribly awful about my own behavior.. 

I wanna give all of my best to to this three thing 1st and I really hope that it will somehow show some positive changes in my kids attitude and behavior.. I don't want to lost faith yet because I know I can do it despite of my own weakness.. My hubby and I have discussed this matter seriously and we are both agreed that for some reason we too are guilty and we both will work together to make sure we do the above mention stuff accordingly.. If you face the same problem, I guess it's never too late to do something for better...

I always lost track of time when talking about my kids.. Well, what can I say.. They are my pride and joy and I guess all mom will say the same.

Am I totally a failure??

As I thought my day will end up as happy as I was this morning then I am totally wrong because right after my hubby fetched my kids from their nanny house, he gave me a bad, real bad news to me that almost make me faint!

My 2nd son took the money that suppose to pay his KAFA monthly fee from his brother without telling him and lost the money at his school this afternoon! This morning I entrusted my eldest son to pay their bus fare and KAFA monthly fee because I trust him and he was the one who normally help me out with the task since my hubby and I don't have much time to go to their KAFA and pay the fee by ourselves. As always, I put the money in sealed envelope and wrote their name on it. There were three envelope, one for the bus fare and the other two was for their KAFA monthly. 

I never thought that something like this will happened since my eldest son never fail to do the responsibility I gave to him yet today he forgot to pay his brother KAFA monthly fee, and he decided to pay it tomorrow but my 2nd son took the money and lost it at the school ( dia cakap la..)

My eldest son said my 2nd son asked him not to tell about it but their nanny happened to know this and she showed my hubby the torn up envelope ( without them money ) and  told what happened to  my hubby when he fetch them at her house.

I smelled something wasn't right when I saw his grim face. He locked up the door and ordered our 2 boys to go to their room while he searched for the rattan. I asked him what's wrong but no responed and I only get the hint when he started beating my 2nd son. Oh my God, I just can believed when my hubby showed the torn up envelope.. My mind went blank for a while and I am unaware that my hubby is beating my second son.. I only snapped back to reality when I heard him yelling for my help then only I grabbed both my son and asked my hubby to stop.. I was crying and pleading to him not to lost his temper! I remind him that beating them won't solve any thing..

I asked my son what happened. He admitted that he took the money without telling his brother but he said he never intended to use it.. He said he just want to keep it but one of his friend saw it and very curious what was in it.. In the end my son said, the money went missing while he went out and the only left behind was the envelope..He said he already told his teacher about it..

After chilled down, my hubby told him that he will go to his school tomorrow and asked the teacher about it to confirm that he is telling us the truth.. I really do hope that he is telling the truth..

I couldn't even enjoy my dinner because I am so distraught with this problem.. I couldn't find any reason why my son acted like this since I always trying my best to fulfill their needs.. Now I really understand how my parent felt when facing my mischief..

I couldn't even blamed my hubby since I know him very well and thing like this always  wake up his temper  yet I still mad at him for beating my son like that and I am not agreed with his way to tackle this problem.. To tell the truth, I feel like I am the one should be blamed for.. ( Sigh )

I don't know what should I do.. This is really a big blow to my confidence as a mother.. I even asked myself whether I am such failure in everything.. I sucked big time in my life and now I even feel like am totally a failure of being a mother.. I thought I already gave everything I have for my kids  but when this happened I started to question whether did I or not??

ParenThots - What do you do when your child has nightmares?

ParenThots - What do you do when your child has nightmares?

My eldest son always have a nightmares. Even worst, he is sleepwalking!

Lots of funny and scary stuff he did during sleepwalking but does it worried me?
Of course I am worried all the times because there been incident where peoples died during sleepwalking!

It's easy to tackle nightmares but to cure sleepwalking will takes forever because there are no scientific explanation for this kind of phenomenon yet so far.

When my kids have a nightmare, all I can do is comforting them and accompany them until they go back to sleep again. I don't know how to prevent nightmares because it's impossible to control our dreams ( even some people said we can ) and though I prevent them from watching horror film, there is still a chance other matter might trigger the nightmares.

As for sleepwalking, there is no particular way I can tackle it but I did secured/locked dangerous place such as kitchen, bathroom and even the exit door to prevent any chance of unwanted accident when my eldest son sleepwalking..
I have read about sleepwalking in one of my favorite author " Sidney Sheldon" book titled " I heard That Song Before" where it was mentioned that sleepwalking happened due to the stress / pressure condition of individual yet I wonder what is stressing my eldest son since he is just 9 years old.

last time my eldest son sleepwalking( last week ), he broke our front door while trying to open it! I was totally scared when I heard the sound of something broke that night because I thought someone tried to break in only to find out that it was my son doing! I think I need to consult with expert about this matter to get further explanation.

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Morning therapy with my mom!

This morning I call  my mother to pour out my heart out about my 2nd son.. Last night I punished him because he lost his class timetable and exercise books.. Moreover, my eldest son complained to me that he always wandered alone back at school !

Sometimes my kids behavior especially my 2nd son always cause me headache and sometimes will turn me into "step-mom".. My mother said I need to use different way to approach each of my kids since they are different in characteristic and behavior and I guess she is right after all.. My mother said parenting done with softness is better than that with harshness because harshness only cause bitterness in kids character.. The bond between children and parent is much more strong if we use a softer approach to tackle their misbehavior.

Calling my mother really worth my phone bills because I  know I can  rely on her to advise me.. She is my top idol beside my father!I hope I can figure out my kids character and find the way to advise them in more effective way than punishing them to regret later..