Know all the facts before you judge!

This story is simple and does happened in real life:~

One old man was sitting with his 25 years old son in the train. Train is about to leave the station. All passengers are settling down their seat. As train started young man was filled with lot of joy and curiosity. He was sitting on the window side. He went out one hand and feeling the passing air. He shouted, "Papa see all trees are going behind". Old man smile and admired son feelings. Beside the young man one couple was sitting and listing all the conversion between father and son. They were little awkward the attitude of 25 years old man behaving like a small child.

Suddenly young man again shouted, "Papa see the pond and animals. Clouds are moving with train". Couple was watching the young man in embarrassingly. Now its start raining and some of water drops touches the young man's hand. He filled with joy and he closed the eyes. He shouted again," Papa it's raining, water is touching me, see papa". Couple couldn't help themselves and ask to old man. Why don't you visit the Doctor and get treated your son.
Old man said," Yes, We were coming from hospital only. Today only my son got the eyes first time in life".

Moral: "Don't draw conclusions until you know all the facts".

Peoples tend to make conclusion without knowing the whole story, leading other people to the wrong side of the whole truth and I realize that did the same mistake several times that end with bad consequences.

For example, last year I found out that my hubby used the money that supposed to be spend on our kitchen stuff without consenting me and instantly, I accused him using  the money to buy trivial stuff instead of asking him and we end up having a "cold war" for a day, only to find out that he used it to settle his old debt with his friend. You see, if only I ask him rather than accusing him then we won't get through that "cold war" after all..

The main key is don't feel ashamed to ask! Nobody will get mad with you if you ask question ( as long as the question is appropriate and suitable to the situation ). By asking, you will get the answer to ponder with before you make conclusion/judgment!

Please End Baby Exploitation & Trafficking!

Baby-for-sale? I know it's not a new issue yet it's still sound menacing and cruel to a mother like me. I surf the star online and this title caught my attention 1st ----> Baby-For-Sale Racket Crippled!

Sometimes I don't understand what kind of person those people who involved in this illegal activity. They are human being after all who gifted with heart to feel love and compassion toward those poor baby yet they are doing the cruelest thing without any remorse.  For God sake, they are just a baby who need protection, not a product to sell off to anybody!

Human trafficking especially baby trafficking is wrong and should never happened after all. For those who involved in trafficking/selling them off let me tell you all this:- Please examine your heart and humanity. If you live on other people misery especially those innocent babies you sold off, then misery will be your friend for eternity.

Congratulation to the local authorities for arresting those who involved in baby trafficking.. Keep up the good job!

For our government: Please stop your debate on trivial matter and focus on something much more important and wide problem such as human/baby exploitation and trafficking! ( we don't want Malaysia to be re-list in human trafficking blacklist as happened in year 2009 when the US government listed us in human trafficking blacklist!) So, forget the political view differences and work your mind together to solve this bigger issue!

Nuffnang Malaysia newbie (^_^) v

Hello Nuffnang Malaysia Community! Newbie here and please show me the way to $$$ !! just kidding but who I am kidding with right?..
I just registered with Nuffnang Malaysia like 1 hour ago and here I am bragging about it in my blog with twinkle in my eyes..

I know about this community since I created my blog site last year but I took time to join it because;  just say I was naive blogger before okay! I know most of my fellow follower and blog I followed used to this community because I visited their blog frequently and saw the Nuffnang ads there and there in their blog site.

Frankly, I don't really know how this community/site function but I guess it might as same as Google adsense where we can get payment if we do it the right way but I am hoping to know it better soon. Very soon indeed.

Guys and gals, feel free to advise me on how to use Nuffnang effectively.. I am looking forward to know your comment..

Morning therapy with my mom!

This morning I call  my mother to pour out my heart out about my 2nd son.. Last night I punished him because he lost his class timetable and exercise books.. Moreover, my eldest son complained to me that he always wandered alone back at school !

Sometimes my kids behavior especially my 2nd son always cause me headache and sometimes will turn me into "step-mom".. My mother said I need to use different way to approach each of my kids since they are different in characteristic and behavior and I guess she is right after all.. My mother said parenting done with softness is better than that with harshness because harshness only cause bitterness in kids character.. The bond between children and parent is much more strong if we use a softer approach to tackle their misbehavior.

Calling my mother really worth my phone bills because I  know I can  rely on her to advise me.. She is my top idol beside my father!I hope I can figure out my kids character and find the way to advise them in more effective way than punishing them to regret later..

Things To Always Remember

Whenever I feel down, depressed or even madly sad, I will surfed for inspirational stories, poems and even quotes that can help me to lift up my strength and spirit. It is kind of my habit to help me ease down my worrisome heart..

Your presence is a present to the world.
You are unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take the days just one at a time.

Count your blessings, not your troubles.
You will make it through whatever comes along.
Within you are so many answers.
Understand, have courage, be strong.

Do not put limits on yourself.
So many dreams are waiting to be realized.
Decisions are too important to leave to chance.
Reach for your peak, your goal and you prize.

Nothing wastes more energy than worrying.
The longer one carries a problem the heavier it gets.
Do not take things too seriously.
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.

Remember that a little love goes a long way.
Remember that a lot … goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment.
Life’s treasure are people together.

Realize that it is never too late.
Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.
Have hearth and hope and happiness.
Take the time to wish upon a start.

AND DO NOT EVER FORGET ….
FOR EVEN A DAY
HOW VERY SPECIAL YOU ARE !

I picked the poem above because it remind me to appreciate the existence of me in this world, to live life to the fullest, to dare myself of hoping and dreaming and to appreciate every single  thing that surrounded me.. In short words, it remind me to live, learn and love!

Great Marriage story

I just want to share this amazing story that read from this link :~ AcademicTips Blog
Here is the story that I picked :~

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments… 

This story really touched my heart and I hope it will touch many more..

Earth Day Every Day!

 I loves nature very much and I always wish that every day is an earth day so that people will stop from contaminating the air, water and lands. I loves the wild jungle, the unpolluted river and the fresh and fresh air but nowadays it is really hard to see a jungle or a clean, unpolluted river or to breath a fresh air. 

22 April every year is officially Earth Day since 1970 but I really wish that people will think every day is an earth day so that they will aware about the critical condition of our beloved earth due to human lack of responsibility in taking care of it. Nowadays here in Malaysia, major supermarket and shopping complex held every Saturday as an earth day where peoples were require to use disposable beg/their own bag instead of plastic bag when they are doing their shopping. It's a good effort but I guess it only give a best result if they are strict on it because from my view, plastic bag is still available but you have to pay extra 20 cents per bag!

I get to know a website that doing a campaign on making every day an earth day from one of my Facebook friend and I really touched by their effort on this matter. As much as I supported any effort on saving or preserve our nature and earth from harm, I 100 percent support this site with their campaign to make :~
Every day an Earth Day!

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011!

When the clock strikes twelve on December 31st, people all over the world cheer and wish each other a very Happy New Year. For some, this event is no more than a change of a calendar. For others, the New Year symbolizes the beginning of a better tomorrow. So, if you look forward to a good year ahead, spread happiness with these wonderful New Year wishes.

To me each new year is a new chapter of 365 pages new days that I need to fill up with my sweet, sour, bitter etc memories. However as most people me too wish that I can fill it up with good and sweet memories.

Every new year people make resolutions to change aspects of themselves they believe are negative. A majority of people revert back to how they were before and feel like failures. This year I challenge MYSELF to a new resolution. I challenge myself to just be me myself. I don't want to be somebody else just to make other people notice me. I want to show all of those people who look down at me especially him the real me, the real me who has been hiding within myself..

 

What I really want to say is ~*~*~*~>

What can be said in New Year rhymes,
That's not been said a thousand times?
The new years come, the old years go,
We know we dream, we dream we know.
We rise up laughing with the light,
We lie down weeping with the night.
We hug the world until it stings,
We curse it then and sigh for wings.
We live, we love, we woo, we wed,
We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.
We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,
And that's the burden of a year

 MY WISH FOR ALL OF YOU WHO READ THIS POST :~

May this new year find you
healthier and happier,
peaceful, content, satisfied,
looking forward
to fresh, revitalizing interests,
a variety of pleasures,
interesting new people,
material and personal successes
to make this new year
the best one yet.
Happy New Year!

Malaysia won the AFF Suzuki Cup !

Malaysian supporter gathered to cheer for the team

AFF Suzuki Cup is officially belonged to Malaysia after defeating Indonesia (2-4 Agg). I am happy but I am disappointed with Malaysia team because to me the winning seem like a lucky one. To my eyes they were not playing at their best last night! They are lack of trying to shoot for a goal and everybody is too engrossed to defend their goal post than attacking the Indonesia Goal post. If only they manage to maintain the 1-1 goal than the winning will be with style.


Last night Malaysian supporter including me were cheering for them and I am glad that they win though not in style and I believe Malaysian supporter knew that our young players have done their best.

Indonesia dominating the whole game since from the beginning. They keep attacking and trying to shot for a goal but maybe luck was not in their side while Malaysia keep defending their goal post! Maybe it was their strategy to deter the Indonesia player from having a chance to shot a goal but at the same time they were doing it without proper strategy that caused one of Malaysian defender to shot goal for Indonesia. I think Malaysia Goal keeper, Fahmi can catch the ball if only the defender didn't interfere.

However they still done a good job and deserve the winning since they work hard for it since the 1st match against Indonesia where they were defeated (5-1). I really admired the skill and courage showed by Malaysian goal keeper and the team should be thankful to him for saving quite a lots of  try from Indonesia to get through their goal post.

Congratulation to Safee Sali for winning the top scorer title! You rock man! Congratulation for the team for winning the Suzuki Cup! Though they didn't ganyang Indonesia support with numbers of goal but at least they win the cup!

I hope Malaysia team will keep on improving their performance and skill to ensure that they can fight a greater opponent in future. Nothing impossible if they work hard for it.

Also million thanks to Prime Minister, Dato' Sri Najib Tun Razak for announcing Friday as Public Holiday as a reward for winning AFF Suzuki Cup! We should proud because the games was shown live through ESPN channel 813 where the whole world might watching it!

Bits of news about Malaysia Winning :~
Malaysia clinche victory at the Gelora Bung Karno Stadium
Malaysia put up strong show to lift AFF title for the first time
Najib declared Friday a Holiday!

Thing Happened For Reason - Be Strong My Brother..

Midnight is time that I spare for myself to lay down staring at the ceiling and think back about my life. Last night all of sudden I was thinking about my older brother. He is going through a very harsh stage of life right now yet he never show his true feeling to any of us including my mother who loves him so dearly.

When I think about him I feel that I am luckier than him though my earning is far from enough to support my big family because he is so lonely. He have a good career with excellent salary but nobody to share all of those thing he have. He a daughter but his relationship with his daughter is altered because of the mother doing.

Recently during Christmas day, I was able to see him again after few year lack of communications due to my cowardliness and embarrassment. I am so happy to see him but I am taken aback with the longing look in his eyes when he played with my kids. At that moment I knew that he is in misery. I know about his problem through my mother but my brother tried to act that he is okay when I asked him about his life, his daughter and said he will going to see her soon.

Though I am not as close to him as my other brother, Peter but I loves him and adores him. Thinking of his condition wretched my heart. My father once said to me that everything happened for reason but I can't think a single reason on why should my brother life become complicated like this. I know he is stubborn and he even have a  tantrum but other than that he is a kind  guy and he deserve happiness in his life.


I prays that he will find happiness in his life. I am grateful because I still have my kids though things always find foul with me.. No matter what happen, I believe that God is watching over us all.. We only have to put our faith in God..

To my brother, please don't give up your hope and expectation in life. Things happened for reason. Our father will always watching over us from above. Remember, you still have us by your side and we will always support you.