Temper Control

For today, I wanna share this motivation story for all those people who have problem in controlling their temper and hopefully after you read it you will find in your heart the strength to fight those temper from unleash.

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.”
You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.
Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.

Article by : Academictips.org

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I have encountered lots of people with a bad temper, who said and did mean things and regret it later when the damage is done. Some of them hardly apologize for the damage they cause and go on with their life without thinking the consequence of their temper to the others. I have to admit that me too have those bad temper years ago, when I was younger, reckless and naive but over years I saw the damage of bad temper done to people emotionally and physically, I matured, wise up and thanks to almighty God I managed to control my temper, got rid all of those temper and replace it with understanding instead.

I don't have particular method how I did it. All I can remember is I just don't want to lose my temper after I witness an incident with horrible consequence of people losing control that terrified me. I cannot tell about the incident because it's not my right. My point here is, I forbid myself from losing my temper by thinking of the those incident and thinking of hurt that I might implicate to others by doing so. Losing control backfires all around - for the person and for those around you! Imagine that.

Not once but many times I was tempted to lose my temper especially among my husband family and relative who likes to look down on me and during negotiation with customer or supplier of my company but I reined it by doing the following:- 

1. Take a deep breathe
2. Think of the consequence to other
3. try to understand them by putting myself to their position - ask question such as why they keep pushing? what they feel if I snap to them and said this mean word? will they forgive me if I did so?
4. Remember that violence and hurt can't solve anything but bring more of it
5. think of my loves one - my kids smiling face, of course

It's not easy, but it's not as hard as well. Most important is your heart intention because everything comes from our sincere heart will turn out to be good result.

P/S:- Above is my personal tips on controlling my temper, it's not from expert advice or what so ever and feel free to suggest more ways! Peace No War!